Has been incredibly busy.
One in Retail.
One at my University.
The second one definitely being the most rewarding.
I have been participating in an exercise we hold as part of our Orientation for our incoming 1st years.
I have learned so much as well as have gained the inspiration I love and always need.
Definiately want to talk about that experience as it will be my last orientation session on Monday.
I am in a rush right now since today is my first day off in two weeks from work! Trying to get as much in today as I can! About to go visit my friend who is finally back from Maryland. Take my mother out for lunch and see my boyfriend by four!!!! ahhh!
Anyways defiantly want to be back on this blog again and talk about some things (:
Definitely is the word of the day!
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part."
— Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via seaofbadstories)
Alright stop right there. Take a look at the first part of that sentence.
You’re telling folks that their equality, their status as a fully formed human being, is something they have to earn, something you have to approve of, something they are not automatically entitled to.
I don’t care who you are, who you’re talking to, or what the second half of that sentence is. You’re wrong.
I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.
I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.
Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.
When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.
And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.
I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.
I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do."
Curious Georgiana (via grrrlstudies)
I know I’ve reblogged this before, but it bears re-reblogging (?). This is how you respond to abuse, this is how you give people control over their bodies/uteruses, this is how you act as a generally non-judgmental and compassionate person. I love this story so fucking much.
For Colored Boys Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Still Not Enough: Coming of Age, Coming Out, and Coming Home
The new book, For Colored Boys, addresses longstanding issues of sexual abuse, suicide, HIV/AIDS, racism, and homophobia in the African American and Latino communities, and more specifically among young gay men of color. The book tells stories of real people coming of age, coming out, dealing with religion and spirituality, seeking love and relationships, finding their own identity in or out of the LGBT community, and creating their own sense of political empowerment. For Colored Boys is designed to educate and inspire those seeking to overcome their own obstacles in their own lives.
- 4coloredboys.com is a comprehensive website that accompanies the book. It features a blog, extensive history and background, a library of additional reads from contributors…and adorable photos of the authors as kids!
Boosting the hell out of this.
Nice. wish i had a review copy.
And here it is!
Long awaited, a typographic poster for my Visual Organization and Media class about gender! Huzzah!
What do ya’ll think?
Hmm… I’ve never seen that definition of “heteronormativity” before. I’ve always seen it as the cultural bias in favor of opposite-sex relationships of a sexual nature, and against same-sex relationships of a sexual nature. Because the former are viewed as normal and the latter are not, lesbian and gay relationships are subject to a heteronormative bias.
Wouldn’t a more accurate term for that definition be “cisnormativity”?
Here’s an unfolded copy of our very first zine, “Trans Women Belong Everywhere”!
Below are instructions on how to make this into a tiny pocket book:
1. Print. This should come out to fit 8.5x11.
2. Use steps 3 through 9 of these instructions to fold and cut the zine. The section that says “Trans Women Belong Everywhere” is the front cover. Once you fold it in half lengthwise (hamburger, not hot dog) make the cut in the middle between Wonder Woman/CeCe McDonald (or “Mourn The Dead”/I Am A Trans Woman Pt 2).
This looks especially good on thicker purple paper!
Radical anti-violence/anti-oppression projects that claim to address violence and oppression against the women’s and trans communities often erase, marginalize and/or tokenize trans women. It is as if the phrase “women and trans” is actually code for women or trans to the exclusion of those of…
Instead of a point in the diverse range of sexual, emotional, and cultural expression, heterosexuality is presented as a natural, unmarked, and default. Straight is a label too, but it is rarely used unless to make a comment, comparison, or disclaimer on queerness."
All the Women Are Cis, All the Trans Are Men.
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FAAB is an acronym. It stands for Female-Assigned At Birth. A person who is FAAB was sexed as female, most likely based on how that...
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